Thanks everyone
Apr. 27th, 2010 12:16 amfor all the hugs and good wishes - they do help.
Everything seems to be moving along - other cousin is checking out funeral costs - which, by the way, are ridiculously expensive, even for a bare bones graveside service. None of her clothes will suit patriarchal uncle, so we'll also have to get something to bury her in.
So I've gone through her things - and all that's left are maybe a garbage bag full of clothes and a small grocery bag with a few toiletries that look unused, so I'll donate them. Threw away some of the clothes because of cigarette burns and general nastiness and went through the other bags and threw away opened toiletries and make-up and sorted out the mail she had so I can call places and tell them she's deceased.
So a garbage bag of clothes, a grocery bag of toiletries/odds & ends, and 3 pieces of mail. And that's it. Oh, yeah, a pair of tennis shoes and a boom box - those are still in my trunk. Everything else - pictures, mementos, whatever - was left behind/lost when she got kicked out of various places.
That just makes me sadder when I compare it to all the stuff of Mom's that I'm still trying to sort through in the house. I'm trying to cut the clutter and get rid of things I don't need, but there's still a lot of things I'll keep. Almost nothing of AC's is worth keeping. There should be *stuff*, you know? Even if you were being a minimalist, there should still be *something*. [sigh]
Everything seems to be moving along - other cousin is checking out funeral costs - which, by the way, are ridiculously expensive, even for a bare bones graveside service. None of her clothes will suit patriarchal uncle, so we'll also have to get something to bury her in.
So I've gone through her things - and all that's left are maybe a garbage bag full of clothes and a small grocery bag with a few toiletries that look unused, so I'll donate them. Threw away some of the clothes because of cigarette burns and general nastiness and went through the other bags and threw away opened toiletries and make-up and sorted out the mail she had so I can call places and tell them she's deceased.
So a garbage bag of clothes, a grocery bag of toiletries/odds & ends, and 3 pieces of mail. And that's it. Oh, yeah, a pair of tennis shoes and a boom box - those are still in my trunk. Everything else - pictures, mementos, whatever - was left behind/lost when she got kicked out of various places.
That just makes me sadder when I compare it to all the stuff of Mom's that I'm still trying to sort through in the house. I'm trying to cut the clutter and get rid of things I don't need, but there's still a lot of things I'll keep. Almost nothing of AC's is worth keeping. There should be *stuff*, you know? Even if you were being a minimalist, there should still be *something*. [sigh]